Disability²

Sabreena Westphal, formerly known as Tiffany Callo, is engaged in a fight for custody of her youngest child. Westphal, whose struggle to regain custody of her oldest children was the subject of a book A Mother’s Touch: The Tiffany Callo Story. Like most parents who have been involved with social services, the birth of a new child brought instant scrutiny from child protection workers.

Reportedly, Westphal has inadequate attendant support, lacks adaptive equipment to allow independence, and has been slow to meet the requirements of her treatment plan, and predictably, her parental rights are at risk. If the facts are as reported, Callo and her partner aren’t ready for her daughter to be home at this time. Putting aside the systemic issues that put Westphal in this situation, there are better options than our current system to provide permanency and security for children, while at the same time allow children to be nurtured and loved by their birth families.

So often, child protection workers admit that parents like Westphal love their children, but that they don’t have the skills to parent them. In response, they terminate parental rights and allow the children to be adopted by another family. While we don’t allow birth families to treat their children as chattel, we instead commodidize the children as chattel for their adoptive families. We need to rethink our child protection and family preservation systems so that they really do act in harmony and in the best interest of children and their families. Parents like Westphal can be a positive and nurturing influence in their children’s lives, and their children in theirs, but our system does not allow that to happen. Termination of parental rights and adoption preclude courts from ordering continuing contact, even when it is in the best interests of children. As demonstrated by what happened with Westphal’s older children, continuing contact with children after adoption is at the whim of the adoptive parents, not based upon what is in the best interest of children. It is possible to develop legislation and public policy that allows children the permanency adoption offers, while at the same time preserving those crucial ties to their families of origin. The more loving resources in a child’s life the better, but our system does not allow for that option.

I will blog a bit more about the myth of best interests, and family preservation in later posts.

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