The promise of the ADA is not realized for disabled parents #ADA25

Seventeen years ago, my oldest daughter was in foster care, and not returning to her parents.  She is my biological niece. I contacted her social worker, and expressed interest in being a permanent placement for Heather.  What commenced was a 16 month long battle to get custody of her.  My daughter’s social worker was convinced […]

Happy Birthday Heather! #ADA25

Today Heather is 25. She was born the very week the Americans with Disabilities Act was passed on July 26, 1990. As a child with multiple disabilities, the passage of the ADA meant she was going to have a very different life than disabled children born a generation before. Heather was born in a small […]

Top ten stupid questions people ask

My family has a lot of intersections.  I am a disabled parent, we are multi-racial, all my kids are adopted, we have multiple visible and invisible disabilities, and three of us use wheelchairs. We have all heard more than our fair share of ignorant, rude, and obtuse comments.  The comments are directed at our disabilities, […]

An open letter to Adoptive Couple

Dear Adoptive Couple, I empathize with where you are.  I have been in your shoes.  I have had an adoption reversed* due to the tenets of the Indian Child Welfare Act.  It is hell, it about kills you.  People will tell you that it is like a death, but without the finality.  I felt that […]